Don’t have time to meditate or do something for yourself? Do you have time to have a shitty day instead?
This was the topic of a short video I posted on Facebook recently, after my day got off to a less than smooth start! Feeling frazzled and distracted, rushed, I didn’t have time to meditate or do something good for myself. Or so I thought.
Have a watch and see what I noticed, or read the transcript below if you’d prefer.
Hi there, I’m at Seven Points Holistic Healing, this is the new space that I’m working out of on Thursdays in Bentleigh.
I was just doing a few things and thinking about how doing one small thing for yourself can really change the mood and energy of your day. This morning I turned off the alarm and rolled over and went back to sleep which meant that then we were all a bit rushed and late. Rushing around trying to get everyone out the door to where they needed to be on time was a bit stressful.
Got to school to drop the kids off and I was feeling a bit frazzled, a bit crazy in the head, and wasn’t really shaping up to be the best day. Then I went to do a meditation session with a group of the grade 6 kids that is something I do on Thursday mornings, and even then I was feeling a bit distracted. But going through that process with them, really helped me to relax as well.
So, having taken the time –
- Although I didn’t even really feel like it
- And if I’d had to do it at home I probably wouldn’t have bothered
- I would have thought, “Oh, I’m too busy, I don’t have time to sit down and meditate”
But really – do you have time to have a shitty day all day?
You know, take that 5 minutes, 10 minutes wherever you can and do something for YOU that can change the mood and energy of your day, particularly if it’s not going so smoothly. It might be just to sit in the car for 5-10 minutes after you drop the kids off and before you rush off to the next thing. Just sit and breathe and do a little meditation on your phone app, or get a piece of paper out and do some journaling just to empty out your head.
Or get up 10 minutes earlier before everyone else but take that time, MAKE that time, and do something for yourself and see. It really makes a big difference to your day. Give it a go!
What do you think? Don’t have time to meditate, or is it worth carving out 10 minutes for yourself? Just 10 minutes!
It doesn’t have to be a big thing, I don’t know anyone who has time in their day for their ideal 2 hour morning routine! That would be great, but short times throughout your day are more realistic and just as effective.
Here are some ideas to fit things in:
- Get up 10 minutes earlier than your family and meditate/journal
- Walk to the train/work instead of driving and make it a mindful walk
- Sit in the car for 10 minutes before your next thing, take time to calm your mind, breathe, listen to a meditation track, or journal to empty your mind
- On the train or bus – put on headphones, close your eyes, meditate. This is one of the best ways that I manage to fit this in to my day! Just don’t miss your stop…
- Go for a short walk outside at lunchtime; breathe, notice the sounds around you, don’t plug in to your phone! Even better if there’s a park or open space nearby
- Relax in a bath and listen to a meditation track once the kids are in bed
- Go to bed 10 minutes earlier and journal to clear your mind before sleep
- Listen to a meditation track before sleep
- Remember – find what works for YOU!
If I sound like a broken record, it’s because I know; “I don’t have time to meditate” means “I’m not prioritising myself”.
Women, particularly mothers in my experience, we put everyone else first. We need to look after the family, be a good friend/wife/lover/partner, excel at work. Mentally we carry a huge load, often without even realising it, as beautifully explained by artist Emma in this cartoon.
Devoting some time to your own wellbeing isn’t being selfish, it’s looking after yourself, just like you look after others. If we’re not getting what we need, it makes it that much harder to be there for someone else. It’s easy to end up feeling resentful towards our other responsibilities, even if they are ones we’ve chosen for ourselves.
Find 10 minutes in your day, then 10 minutes more, and work from there. Allow yourself, you deserve it.
Action expresses priorities
- New to meditating, or not convinced you’re “doing it right”? You might like to read this post I wrote for Elephant Journal – 3 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Started Meditating.
- Want to try journaling but not sure where to start? You can check out my free Reconnect Daily Journal Project.